When an old friend contacts you out of the blue, it’s a pleasant surprise. It may also be a warning sign that something is wrong.
The first thing to keep in mind is that you can’t fix someone else’s problems. If your friend needs help, they will ask for it. If they don’t, then don’t offer to help with anything.
If you think they might be in trouble, ask them how they are doing and if there is anything you can do to help them out. Sometimes just talking about their problems can help them figure out how to solve them on their own.
You should also be careful not to make any assumptions about why they contacted you or what they want from you. You may have some theories about why they reached out but until they tell you specifically what is going on, hold off on making any judgments.
Last modified: November 14, 2022