The answer is that it depends on the nature of the relationship. If you’re in a marriage or a long term relationship, then you should be candid with your partner about your sexual needs, fantasies and kinks. It’s important to be honest with each other about what you like, what gets you off and how you can please each other. If there’s something that’s bothering you, don’t hold back because of fear or guilt; talk to your partner about it right away so they can help make things better for both of you.
It’s also important not to censor yourself or hide certain parts of yourself from your partner. If they love you, they will accept all parts of who you are — even if those parts include being attracted to other people!
If your partner knows about these feelings and doesn’t seem bothered by them at all then I would say it’s fine as long as they are not being hurt by it or jealous (or vice versa). You don’t have to tell them everything that goes on but I think it’s important for them to at least know what kind of person/people turn you on so that if they want to meet any of them themselves (without cheating), then they can do so.
Last modified: October 9, 2022